In today’s society, the stigma of divorce has changed significantly from several decades ago. While going through a divorce is often an emotionally and financially painful split, it also has increasing benefits that if you both can recognize it, can help with your relationship post-divorce. Sometimes divorce simply frees you both up to live your lives in a better accordance to your own style and personality, without the weight of responsibility and expectation that drove you to divorce in the first place. Being single has also improved as a life-style choice. There are more single adults in the United States than ever before, either divorced or never married.
If you can set aside anger and hurt, and work towards a reconciling an amicable relationship for the sake of your children, you will reduce fighting and depression-inducing negative thoughts. Using mediators to help you to arrive at fair and equitable conclusions helps decrease conflict even more and helps you and your ex create settlement agreements that will last and that you can both feel good about. Agreements made through mediation stick with far more frequency than those negotiated under stress and anger.
Studies show that children of divorce are far more likely to do well in a cooperative co-parenting environment. What hurts children is conflict between the parents and losing contact with one parent, not whether or not the parents live together in the same house.
A bad marriage can compromise your health, immunity and mental health, according to a slew of recent studies, and a good divorce can help mitigate that! Today, there are a growing number of people who are finding that they have very amicable and friendly relationships with their ex-spouses. Some even vacation together! It certainly helps your financial and emotional well-being if you can choose the path of forgiveness over resentment in a divorce.