Our experience makes us especially adept at dealing with custody and parenting issues in divorce.
Custody is determined in one of three ways:
- The parents decide themselves what is best for their children.
- The family court counselors help parents decide for themselves what is best for their children.
- A judge imposes what’s best for “most” children.
There are two types of custody: Legal and Physical.
Legal custody is generally held jointly and means both parents share the rights and responsibilities to make decisions about the children’s residence, health and education. This includes each parent’s lawful duty to financially support the children to the best of their ability; something oftentimes overlooked at first, but important to establish early in a court case.
Physical custody is also known as “time share” — we don’t “visit” our children — is the day to day responsibilities each parent has; typically under a schedule. Time share schedules vary depending upon each parent’s work schedule and other factors. The ideal schedule is one that maximizes each parent’s available time with the children to ensure kids continue to be raised by two parents and benefit from the best that each parent has to offer. Old fashioned ideas favoring the mom have been rejected by psychological studies of divorcing kids over the past generation.
The court’s primary concern is to assure the children’s health, safety and welfare, and that they have frequent and consistent contact with both parents by ensuring that children of divorce are still raised by two parents. When you leave it up to the court to decide, you risk allowing standardized “one size fits all” formulaic systems imposed on your family. It is better for the parents to work out for themselves what truly maximizes the best of what each parent has to offer. Our 30 years of experience enables us to tailor custody schedules that fit your personal family dynamic.