Navigating Child Custody and Co-Parenting
Child Custody and Visitation
Our 40+ years of representing men enable us to share the experiences of other fathers who went through similar situations. We’ve developed strategies and approaches to help maximize the quality as well as the quantity of time with your children.
There are two types of custody: Legal and Physical.
Legal custody is generally held jointly, which means both parents share the rights and responsibilities to make decisions about the children’s health, education, and welfare. This includes each parent’s lawful duty to support the children to the best of their ability financially, something oftentimes overlooked at first but important to establish early in a court case.
Physical custody, aka “timeshare” — we don’t “visit” our children — is the day-to-day responsibility each parent has, typically under a schedule. Timeshare schedules vary depending on each parent’s work schedule and other factors. The ideal schedule is one that maximizes each parent’s available time with children to ensure kids continue to be raised by two parents and benefit from the best that each parent has to offer. Old-fashioned ideas favoring the mom have been rejected by psychological studies of divorcing kids over the past generation.
An important aspect in most divorces is to realize early on that as parents, you are not in competition with each other but instead continue to bring the best of what you have to offer in raising your kids. Your strengths likely differ from the other parent’s strengths. The kids get the best of both worlds.
“In the modern world, It’s also now men who must learn to balance career and parenting. That’s not something they teach in the law books — how to coach guys in parenting. ”